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Needing a surrogate to start a family.


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Joined: January 4, 2015

We are a young couple who have been trying for a baby for around six years. We have had nine failed embryo transfers through IVF with no success, and we are now left with little option except to hope that there is an amazing person out there who can change our lives forever. If you can or know someone who may be able to help us please reply to this. Thanks.

Posted on January 4, 2015 at 2:36 PM


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Joined: January 13, 2015

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hi Stella1,

Although I can not help you with being a surrogate - just want to let you know you are not alone in this journey. I will be going down this path and searching for a surrogate in the near future!

Good Luck! Hopefully someone will give you the most amazing gift.

Posted on January 13, 2015 at 2:18 PM


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Joined: February 19, 2015

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hi both

Keep us updated.
I am interested in the legal aspect in NZ for this other option.


Posted on April 5, 2015 at 11:27 AM


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Joined: June 9, 2015

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hi Stella1,

I stumbled across your forum post while researching to complete a pregnancy workbook for my nursing degree. I've been lucky enough to have three boys myself and would love to hear how you have progressed with your search for a surrogate. All the very best,


Posted on June 9, 2015 at 3:39 PM


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Joined: January 4, 2015

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Well a lot has happened for us since I posted this!
We have found a special person to be our surrogate! Yay!
There is a lot of paperwork, counselling sessions for all parties which is great but pretty draining at the same time.
Wow 3 boys!! Haha Im sure there's not a dull minute in your household!
Is surrogacy something you might look into?x

Posted on June 10, 2015 at 7:23 PM


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Joined: September 19, 2015

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Great news Stella!!! It feels really nice to know there are wonderful people around to help achieve our parenthood dream. It must be a lot of hard work for all people involved.

Posted on November 27, 2015 at 7:53 PM


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Joined: February 5, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hello. We need your help and advice.
We are not resident in the country, but live and work here on a contract for at least another 2 years.
We suffer from infertility for more than 10 years and is now ready to use the services of a surrogate mother. In his native country, and it is impossible not allowed at the legislative level.
We are ready to carry out the program here or in any other country where it is permitted by the laws. What would you recommend?

Posted on February 5, 2017 at 4:50 PM


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Joined: February 7, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Very, very sorry that such a wonderful and useful forum is now inactive (
I was here in 2015 and was a lot more traffic. I would like to announce that we have now a child of the surrogate mother. He was born in December 2016 and we were waiting for his 7 years!
I do not know if I can here give links to useful information on our resources, but you can write to us at the e-mail o.a.orel@gmail.com - we will be happy to help other people, in the name of the birth of children! smiling

Posted on February 9, 2017 at 8:58 PM


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Joined: May 24, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.


That's so wonderful to hear! I wish you and your child everything best smiling
I also remember the forum used to be much more active... That's sad. I'll send you an email in a few days smiling

Best regards

Posted on May 24, 2017 at 11:37 PM


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Joined: October 14, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Dear lovely mums,

Me and my husband are looking for a surrogate mum to complete our family. I had my hysterectomy after my C-section of my fist child. I had bleeding because of just a mistake by the doctors and had more than 8 surgeries.I am recovering from this trauma and thought its the right time to have my 2nd child. My daughter is eagerly looking for a sibling to play around with her.

We truly believe that some one would help us to complete our family. if someone would like to help us or advice us please do email at kumaraauck@gmail.com.

We are based in Auckland. Thank you very much for reading my story...

Posted on October 15, 2017 at 8:54 AM


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Joined: November 5, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.


Because of my uterus, I don’t have even 1% possibility to conceive a baby, But we (me & my hubby) didn’t give up. It is a big tragedy of my life that I couldn’t bear my child, touch my belly and feel the kicks, care my baby… But Today because of Happy Family Surrogacy and IVF consulting I am happy mom, I have amazing healthy active daughter, we are really very happy. So, girls, be brave and fight for your happiness!! Thanks for surrogacyinfo, and I am very satisfied with final result! I am a mom of healthy active daughter. They treated well and also got accommodation, food supply, transportation in Kyiv and the most important unlimited attempts! All of it I received without help of agency which offers it for extra fees. I have dual impressions if talking about service. More and more infertile couples find happiness in surrogacyinfo. They are really good, just need to correct some organization things and they will be the best. Try this & you will get definitely good results.
Good Luck !

Posted on November 5, 2017 at 6:37 AM


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Joined: October 14, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Thanks Jenny for your motivated words. We will consider the this option as time comes and working on it to achieve our dream..

Posted on November 19, 2017 at 10:50 AM


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Joined: January 15, 2017

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

I have been married for 2 years, once we got married we both wanted children so much. We tried for 6 months but with my age I knew I should go to the doctor. He referred us to a fertility clinic, once lots of test were done the news wasn’t good. I have had lots of health problems in my life but my biggest was getting Lupus in my early 20s which looks like has done the damage.

So a year of tests to see if it was safe for myself to carry, we also asked to be put on the donor egg list, which in New Zealand the donor picks you. We were so lucky to be picked by this lovely lady and everything started to just fall into place. I fell pregnant straight away and carried our little man right through, but something terrible happened in child birth where the brain was very damaged from labour and lack of oxygen for 31 minutes, it’s all like a bad dream I wish I could wake up from and wish to have him in my arms healthy and happy, we only got to have our son for 3 days. I had to have a classical c-section and the pain was so bad and I look pregnant but don’t have our wee treasure to show for it. So since it was so traumatic on me and my body we are after a lovely special lady that will be our surrogate.

Posted on February 2, 2018 at 4:25 PM


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Joined: February 8, 2018

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hello there. I hope that you get to find your happy ending very soon. It is very hard to find a nice surrogate these days. Very few ladies these are willing to do it these days. But it is very very hard to find nice people. I myself am TTC but I cannot and when I come t think of surrogacy the one thing that worries me is the job of finding a surrogate. You cannot just trust any random person with such a big responsibility. I have heard that there are many clinics that along with carrying out the treatment also provide the surrogates and then its up t us to choose the surrogate of our choice. I hope that you get to find the perfect lady for this and I wish you the best of luck with it. I hope that you get to have your happy ending very soon. I am very sure that you will get everything you want but you have to be a little patient for that.

Posted on February 8, 2018 at 6:48 AM


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Joined: May 29, 2019

Re: Needing a surrogate to start a family.

Hi everyone!

I have been reading some of the stories here and it's amazing that people support each other to reach their dreams of building a family.

I would like to share my story as well with the hope that I can gather insights from anyone that might have the same situation like mine.

I have a male partner for almost 7 years now and we are very happy with our relationship and where we are heading to as a family. I would say that we are in a position mentally,emotionally and financially to start raising our own kids. The challenge is that, we are both males. We have started looking into options such as surrogacy and adoption and we decided to try the surrogacy path first. My partner has a sister and luckily she agreed to donate eggs for our journey! We are very happy that we have a potential egg donor already and the next big step that we are doing is searching for a person who can carry our baby. My mother has volunteered(she is 44 years old) and I am really happy that our families are very supportive on this journey, however, I am worried for my mum's health as who knows how old will she be when we finally reach the stage where we transfer the embryos. We are both migrants, me from the Philippines, and my partner from Japan which means that all the potential people that are in our head will be coming from overseas.

I have many questions in my mind and hopefully someone can share their thoughts or personal experience:

1. My biggest ask, is there anyone out there, who has raised their respective families already and would like to give us the gift of carrying our child, and give us the chance to raise a kid full of love and affection? There are lot of worries about gay parents raising kids but we would like to do our best to raise a kid who is loving and kind. Please hear us out and give us a chance, email me at jomarmallare@gmail.com or you can reach me at 021596562

2. Is there any gay couples out there who did the same journey and would like to guide us or share their experience to us?

3. Does anyone know if there are any public funding that we can avail to assist us in this journey? I am pretty sure it will be very expensive journey so getting assistance will be ideal.

4. For people who used agencies locally and internationally, can you please share your experiences or any recommendations?

Finally, for all the people out there, going through the same journey, fighting for this chance, let us support each other and I hope that everyone will finally get their chances!!!!


Posted on May 29, 2019 at 11:40 AM

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